‘ CHOICE IS YOURS BETWEEN BIRTH & DEATH ‘
When I wrote about flaws in Engineering education, I got a suggestion from my sweet brother Sajeesh (A) Vava that i need to wrote about positives too. But i didn’t add any positive note on that post, instead of that i decided to write my next blog with some positive thoughts. It is quite interesting at same time difficult to write in positively about something, because its very easy to find the flaws in something from our life events but thinking in positive or extracting positives from our life is miserably harder to me. It means i don’t have nothing to write in my next post.
Sometimes if we couldn’t make a choice, the situation will give some options. I finished reading of the novel called CAN LOVE HAPPEN TWICE by Ravindhar singh on 05.02.2015 and i choose the next book called WHO WILL CRY WHEN YOU DIE by Robin Sharma. YES! there i got my topic for my next Blog POST.
So here i am going to share my views about life and opportunities which helps us to realize the present status of our-self.
Meaning of life:
We we were born, we cried while world delighted.We should need to live our life in the way that when we die, the world cries while we delight. Every body born on someday and will die on someday, there is nothing special in that. But still we remember some people who were passed away 100 or 1000 years before. What make them to still live in our memories? Is they born on any special day or any special occasions? while you reading this questions, how many peoples are came to your mind, did any friends names come on your mind? I hope the answer is NO. May be you might thing about bill gates, gandhi ji, vivekandha, or any peoples who have did some fabulous jobs in their life.
There i am here with some answers for my previous questions that what makes some peoples to live in some others memories. These peoples don’t have any magical powers, they just followed their heart with the support of their brain. They just did their work which the chose with full passion without given-up for hurdles in their work. They never feared about loosing but they moved towards to reach their goal. They never searched for their life, instead of that they made their life by own.
Some peoples used to say that YOU SHOULD FIND YOUR DESTINY, YOU SHOULD FIND THE MEANING OF YOUR LIFE. I also accept those words but i don’t feel that we are here with some destiny or with meaning and our life is not a pre-written dictionary to search the meaning. It is our own life, we should need to create our destiny and it is our duty to create the meaning.
I have give some examples for those peoples creates meaning for their life. Arichchandra-Truth & Honesty, Ghandhi – Simple, Honesty, Calmness, Bill gates- great personality, Successful man, richest person. similarly every wise peoples create some meanings and they by maintaining the meaning of their life they moved towards the destiny, goal & peoples hearts. Instead of searching the life just define it.
Choices Of Life
Life is made up of choices. I believe life is just a series of decisions we make and depending on our choice, must live with the result of that decision. The choices are have many possibilities whether real or imagined. The choice in life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.
Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life.With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way?
There are no guarantees. Then how we can take a chance? How we could decide the path?
I wondered how many decisions we make every day, probably 1000s. We decide whether or not to get out of bed, what we’ll eat, what we’ll do, what we’ll think about, what we’ll say…and on and on. While it may seem like many of our daily choices are not that significant, it’s important to understand that they do matter.
In our life Its hard but its necessary to take the decision otherwise we can’t move ahead a single step.
Decision From The choices
Taking decisions from several choices is the first step towards our destiny. There are so many factors involved with our decision-making and with its unknown result, many of us hesitate to even make a choice, thinking it would be safer and that we’d be better off where we are instead of delving into the unknown. Just think of how many events in history would never have occurred if someone did not make the choice to do something different, unknown, unproved or un-experienced? How many relationships would never have been realized without making a particular choice? Many would say that we have no control over our world or what happens to us. I say perhaps you cannot control the world, but you can certainly control how you chose to react to various situations and how you will handle them.
Let us see the way to select the particular choice among the numbers. If you are going buy a pen to shop, there are so many pens will avail with different colors, different brands & different prices, then how you chose a single pen from that. Ya.. it depends on the need. Similarly in life making decisions to we should make choice by need which means based on our passion. If we couldn’t able to take a risks to move on with our passion means then who else going to do it.
In assist you in making these decisions, I have put together a criteria which you can use while making a choice:
- What is important and valuable to you? What you value may not be of much import to someone else. So know what you value most.
- Don’t lose focus of your future. Many people tend to make choices based on life as it appears right now instead of looking to the future. Does your choice and its ramifications stay within the goals that you have set for yourself for the future?
- Have you looked at all the alternatives and considered different scenarios? Sometimes you just might consider a different outcome.
- How important is this decision and are you willing to work on it? Don’t get caught up with how important a choice is but, better yet, what a positive impact this has on my your life.
- Don’t forget to use your “inner calling” for your choice instead of your head.
Once you make the choice and take a chance of it. Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveler or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions casually. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. It is about Learning and growing confidence. If you failed with your decisions and if you are ready to find another choice from previous failures, you will become wiser and you will grow better and better every time.
While taking chance ask your self 5 W’s ( What, why, when, who & where ). This will give all the possibilities of approaching risks.Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.
Path of Success
Taking decision is process of moment but outcome of it will be for life time. So we need to calm and sincere to make our destiny. There we may face lots of hurdles and that may threaten you to step back from your destiny. But you believe your self and never come back, fight with the problems and extract the positives from that achieve your goal.
To achieve your goal you must practice it long as per your decisions and make it as a habit and face your destiny with great and cheerful smile.
Major path for success is that what ever you are just love your self & feel that you are awesome.The joy in the the work will give half of the part of success.
~~~Trust Yourself and Make the Decision, Because your decisions will be your life~~~
Sukesh Radhakrishnan [SRK]